Monday, June 27, 2011


macam2 pula terjadi dalam seminggu dua ni. tenteramlah duhai hati, bersabar lah :'(
Al-Baqarah: 216; Al-Baqarah: 286; al-Ankabut: 2-3..

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

simple update

1. I seriously have to get myself a new phone. It caused me lotsssssssssssssssssssss of trouble! hmmp!!!
2. Have to plan another trip before fasting month. I think am addicted to trekking/ hiking (and its cronies) already. :D this time inshaALlah to Sg. Chiling, Kuala Kubu Bharu, Sngor.
3. Need time to finish reading Road to Mecca book!! it because too much of workload or is it plainly due to my poor time management? :(

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

something to share with you ladies :)

I came across this article after discussing this issue with a friend few days ago. I really like the way the author explain. Simple and sweet, easy to comprehend. Hope it's beneficial to us all, inshaAllah :)

Most women who have infertility issues also suffer from abnormal menstrual flows. While Muslim women generally know the does and don’ts of a normal menstrual flow, many are at a loss of what to do during an abnormal menstrual cycle. Our purpose here is not to discuss the normal flows or the Islamic rules regarding them, but to address those rules related to abnormal flows as well as post natal bleeding and bleeding after a miscarriage, which are also commonly misunderstood amongst Muslim women.

The Qur’an addresses menstruation on three occasions, two of which don’t concern us in this discussion. The one ayat, which is small but holds a lot of detail is in Al Baqarah ayat 222 which can be translated as: “They ask you concerning menstruation (mahid) Say: it is a hurt (adha) Therefore keep away from them during their menstruation and go Not unto them until they have become clean (Tahara) And when they have cleansed (Tatahhara) then go into Them as Allah has ordained for you.”
The implication of this ayat is in regards to the sexual relations between man and women during the menstrual cycle. However, we learn several other things from this aya that applies to women and menstruation in regards to other aspects of Islam.
Adha, a hurt, injury or ailment, is the word that Allah uses to describe the menstruation of a woman. Any woman can relate to the hurt, which comes in the forms of abdominal, cramps, backache, inner thigh pain, headaches, nausea and many other symptoms associated with the menstrual flow. The severity of which will differ from women to women, however women suffering from Endometriosis will have increased abdominal cramps.
Tahara, cleansing or purity, Allah points out the fact that during the time of the menstrual flow women are impure. Not in the sense that everything related to her body is impure, for the menstrual cycle is not in the hands of a woman.
Aisha reported: The Prophet said to me “Bring the mat for me From the mosque.” I said: “I have got menses.” He said: “Your menstruation is not in your hand”
But impurity in the sense that the menstrual flow is a form of cleansing. During the month the uterine lining will thicken in the hopes of implantation. When this does not happen the uterine lining will shed, a form of cleansing that the body requires in order to prepare for the next month of anticipated pregnancy.
A medically defined normal menstrual flow is considered to be one that occurs every month when a woman is not pregnant, for up to seven days, and not associated with unusual amounts of pain. However the Muslim scholars differ as to the minimum and maximum days of menstrual flow in order for it to be legally defined as a menstrual flow. The Hanafis allow three days minimum and ten days maximum, Hanbalis and Shafi’is allow for a one day minimum and maximum of fifteen days and according to the Malikis there is no minimum set time but the maximum is set at fifteen days also. However women are not programmed like a computer, the duration of their own normal flow may differ from woman to woman.
There are two forms of abnormal flows, which concern us here, the prolonged flow and the bleeding between menstrual cycles. Both of which are not subject to the same rules that a normal flow is in shariah.

This is something which Muhammad pbuh addressed with the women of his time
Aisha reported that Fatimah, the daughter of Abu Hubaish Came to the Prophet and said: “O Messenger of Allah, I am a woman who has a constant discharge of Blood so I am not purified. Shall I give up prayer?” He said: “No, that is a vein and not menses, And when your menses comes, give up your prayer; And when the time elapses, wash the blood from yourself and Than pray.
Umm Salamah reported that a woman used to discharge Blood at the time of the Prophet. Umm Salamah asked Decision of the Prophet for her. He said: “Let her look To the number of nights and days in a month which she Used to have menses before that which attacked her, And let her give up prayer proportionate to that in a Month. When she finishes that, let her take bath And let her tie a cloth over her private part and then let Her say prayer
From here we see that Muhammad pbuh referred to this abnormal flow as not of the regular cycle, rather from a vein. While the vein should not be taken in a literal sense we should understand it that the bleeding comes from a different source than a normal menstrual flow, which consists of the shedding of the uterine lining.
Menorrhagia, the medical term for prolonged blood flows or abnormal amount of blood flow can have several causes. What is an abnormal amount of blood? There is a charting system that will help you find out. Some causes for prolonged blood flow include uterine fibroid tumors, polyps, hormonal imbalances, thyroid level imbalance, lupus and other medical conditions including cancer. All women should refer to their doctors if they have prolonged blood flows or large quantity of bleeding.
We also learn from these ahadith that the rules that are applicable to women during their normal cycle are not applicable to women during a prolonged flow. Under a normal menstrual flow a woman would not be permitted to make formalized salah, to fast during Ramadhan, although she would have to make up for days missed. She would also be prohibited from staying in the mosque, or sitting on the musallah. However if it is Eid all women are to come out for this celebration menstrual flow or not. Sexual intercourse is prohibited, however touching, kissing and other forms of foreplay are not prohibited. She also would not make tawaf around the Kabah during Hajj as well as touching the Arabic script of Quran.
All Sunni madhahib do agree that during an abnormal flow none of the above things are prohibited for her. She is to pray, fast, can stay in the mosque, make tawaf around the Kabah, touch the Quran and have sexual intercourse. The only requirement is that she makes ghusl as she normally would do after a menstrual flow. When she makes salah she would also make wudu before every prayer, however a full ghusl for every prayer is not mandated but can be the choice of the woman as we have seen in the above hadith.

This is another form of abnormal bleeding that has been addressed by Muhammad pbuh as reported: Narrated Aisha one of the wives of the Messenger of Allah joined him in I’tikaf and she noticed Blood and yellowish discharge (from her Private parts) and put a dish under Her when she prayed
Narrated Aisha: Umm Habiba got bleeding In-between the periods for seven years. She asked Allah’s Messenger about it. He ordered her to Take a bath and that it was from a blood Vessel. So she used to take a bath Before every prayer
Again we see that the same legal rulings which apply to a prolonged flow of bleeding to that of the bleeding in-between a normal cycle. So what are some of the causes for such bleeding?
Metrorrhagia, the medical term for bleeding between cycles, has several causes. Some of which are hormonal fluctuations, low thyroid levels, vaginal infections, injury to the vagina, some forms of cancer, certain medications, stress, or missing a birth control pill. Whenever a woman experiences bleeding in-between cycles from unknown causes it is best to call the doctor. You should keep track of how many pads you use; this can help determine if the blood flow is abnormally heavy. Also staying away from aspirin can help since it prolongs bleeding.
The same Muslim scholar deductions related to the prolonged flow would also relate to the flow in-between cycles. So a woman can resume all normal activities which she would if she were not menstruating.

One of the most commonly misunderstood things about postnatal bleeding is that many women think that they should refrain from all things for a total of forty days. They understand this to be the scholarly deduction if they are bleeding or not. However according to the scholarly deductions there are set maximum days just as we say in the menstrual flow. In the opinion of the Hanafis and Hanbalis the maximum amount of time is forty days, anything beyond this is not considered a normal flow of nifas and would be subject to different rules. The Shafi’is and Malikis set a maximum amount of time of sixty days. This however does not mean that if a woman’s flow stops before the forty days she is to continue in a state of “impurity” rather she is to make ghusl and resume her Islamic duties.
Anas reported that Allah’s Messenger had prescribed Forty days for a woman in the state of nifas except that she feels purified before this (period)
Again there is no set programming for women during these times, each women will differ as to her flow. Some bleed for a longer amount of time, some having a heavier flow, and some experiencing different color of the discharge. If a woman is unsure as to any flow she is having be it menstrual or postnatal she should discuss this with her doctor. Generally most doctors will say about six weeks of postnatal bleeding is normal and if bleeding occurs after that than a cause should be found, depending on the blood flow.

When a woman miscarries she may experience bleeding during and after. The length of time will differ from each women but generally a woman will bleed for a few days a week or on and off for a few weeks. Concern should be noted if the bleeding is more than a normal menstrual flow, or when you soak a pad within an hour. There are different reasons why some women may flow heavier than others in these times such as location of implantation in the uterus, how deep embryo had implanted, condition of the uterine lining, or muscle tone of the uterus. It could also be due to ones own nutrients, such as iron, calcium and electrolytes. There are many factors, however if you become concerned over the flow of blood or amount refer to your doctor.
All the rules concerning a menstrual flow would also apply to women who bleed after miscarriage. Such as not praying, fasting, having sexual intercourse, tawaf around the Kabah.
A woman with sporadic bleeding after a miscarriage and it is determined to be normal should resume her duties when she has no flow. But when the flow comes again should ceases in her duties. If the flow were determined to be of another nature than the rules regarding abnormal blood flow would also apply.

Ghusl = is an Arabic term referring to the full ablution (ritual washing) required in Islam for various rituals and prayers. The ablution becomes mandatory for any adult Muslim after having sexual intercourse, any sexual discharge (e.g. of semen),completion of the menstrual cycle,giving birth, and death by natural causes.

back to nature

Hiking at broga hill and mt tok wan in semenyih is the first trip I had ever since I got back to msia in December 2010. We made our move there quite late actually at 630 am on Sunday, 1206201 as most of the hikers usually starts their climbing before dawn to witness the magnificent sunrise from the peak of Broga Hill. There were 8 of us for this leisure trip where we started to hike at 730am. The climb was not so difficult although I have to stop few times to catch my breath. After reaching the pinnacle at about 840am, we saw a signboard leading to Mt. Tok Wan which is a 3.1km further of hiking. After being persuaded by the rest of the group members, I finally joined them as I don't want to be left behind alone waiting under the bright hot blazing sun! We rest quite some times at Broga before proceed. The path to Mt. Tok Wan was quite challenging for me, a beginner in mountain climbing. But for those who are fit enough, I am sure this track is so easy for you. I really suggest to who ever wished to go here either Broga or Mt. Tok Wan to bring enough water as there's no river for you to refill your empty bottles throughout the track. Also, hike as early as possible as it shall be very hot after the sun rises. We left the mountain at 12 noon, hence we felt very dehydrated and weak on our way down hill.

Take home message:
1. Appreciate and be grateful for what Allah has given us. The nature is one of the best gift he's given us. Protect and preserve it well, do not litter, don't make any damage that could lead to imbalance in ecosystem and the last thing you know, you too will be affected by your own mistake!

2. A friend of mine looked at a different angle from this trip. In this world, if we are thirsty, we have money and we can buy water to replenish the water loss and we won't feel thirsty anymore. But in Mahsyar, if we don't have enough amal (good deeds) how can we be comfortable there? Our amal is our money there.

3. In this world, money is the basis of life. One has to listen to their boss and do our job well to get paid. The same rule applies for us to achieve happiness in Hereafter (heaven), we have to obey to Allah rules and perform our duty as Muslim.

*one of our group members is an active member of OGKL club.